I never hear the end of women
complaining that men aren't involved with their kids, that they don't take an
interest.*
And some don't; but maybe it's
because they're human and like most other humanoid life forms they can only
take so much rejection and nitpicking before they shut down emotionally.
This guy sports a six pack and he still gets nagged
And at that point they probably do
say to themselves,” Maybe I'm just not cut out for this, maybe I should just
step out of the way and let my wife takeover or step out permanently, let
someone else raise the kids who can do all those things the right way."
Anything that doesn't fall in line
with the way things should be done according to the TV model receives the
head-shaking, smile knowingly and roll your eyes, silly man just doesn't get it
look.
I cannot even begin to fathom
what is wrong with women. And when I say women -I mean of the finicky
mainstream variety.
I don't know her, but odds are she's not a naggy bitch
I have not come across any of this
bashing among the off the beaten path types; homeschooling, attachment, crunchy,
gunny, anarchists, freedom minded women. Because of the circles I run in, I
rarely meet up with women, these days, who aren’t of like mind set with myself.
But occasionally when I’m cornered by chance or social dynamics to chitchat
with the eye-rolling, tsk-tsking species of my gender, I am reminded why.
Generally, the only discussion
going is, my husband/boyfriend is an idiot because_____. Women do this
as a type of female bonding. Women who** do not even know each other will connect
in a bond of sisterhood by making snide comments about their buffooning
husband.
You see, we women want protection.
Even those of us who claim independence, who pound our fists and declare
ourselves in control of our destinies, those of us who carry guns, run
companies, dig ditches or power lift; we can‘t help it. As deeply ingrained as it is in men
to dream of being the hero (just admit it, even Samwise Gamgee couldn't help himself), we dream of feeling safe.
And here is where is gets fucked.
This little lizard brain quirk
isn’t enough to stop us from achieving anything feminism fought for back in the
day. If channeled properly, it only means that we show our husbands a little
respect; that we say, Thank you when
he changes the tire, instead of stamping our feet and muttering about how we
could have done it ourselves. But when television
tells us that men are insulting and bullying us when they talk to the mechanic
for us, we get huffy and pissy instead of realizing they are just trying to do
their job.
Men can't help themselves; they
want to protect; they want to provide for their tribe, their family. I'm not
saying only men should work while women do housework. I mean on a very deep, subconscious level this is where men are coming from.
So what now?
We have effectively removed our
spouses as protector and provider even if only in an honorary modernized
version of the position.
And yet at a deeply rooted level we still want protection.
So here’s what now.
We have put government at the head
of our table.
We have put government in the role
of daddy.
So while there may physically be a
husband and father in the picture, in the dynamics of things, they have been
replaced.
I feel so much safer knowing this giant head is here
Government protects the children
with their rules and laws.
Government provides food with
their little programs.
Government provides health care
and education.
So if you’re wondering where all
the libertarian women are, we’re the ones not laughing at our husbands.
-Tasha







