I never hear the end of women complaining that men aren't involved with their kids, that they don't take an interest.*
And some don't; but maybe it's because they're human and like most other humanoid life forms they can only take so much rejection and nitpicking before they shut down emotionally.
This guy sports a six pack and he still gets nagged
And at that point they probably do say to themselves,” Maybe I'm just not cut out for this, maybe I should just step out of the way and let my wife takeover or step out permanently, let someone else raise the kids who can do all those things the right way."
Anything that doesn't fall in line with the way things should be done according to the TV model receives the head-shaking, smile knowingly and roll your eyes, silly man just doesn't get it look.
I cannot even begin to fathom what is wrong with women. And when I say women -I mean of the finicky mainstream variety.
I don't know her, but odds are she's not a naggy bitch
I have not come across any of this bashing among the off the beaten path types; homeschooling, attachment, crunchy, gunny, anarchists, freedom minded women. Because of the circles I run in, I rarely meet up with women, these days, who aren’t of like mind set with myself. But occasionally when I’m cornered by chance or social dynamics to chitchat with the eye-rolling, tsk-tsking species of my gender, I am reminded why.
Generally, the only discussion going is, my husband/boyfriend is an idiot because_____. Women do this as a type of female bonding. Women who** do not even know each other will connect in a bond of sisterhood by making snide comments about their buffooning husband.
You see, we women want protection. Even those of us who claim independence, who pound our fists and declare ourselves in control of our destinies, those of us who carry guns, run companies, dig ditches or power lift; we can‘t help it. As deeply ingrained as it is in men to dream of being the hero (just admit it, even Samwise Gamgee couldn't help himself), we dream of feeling safe.
And here is where is gets fucked.
This little lizard brain quirk isn’t enough to stop us from achieving anything feminism fought for back in the day. If channeled properly, it only means that we show our husbands a little respect; that we say, Thank you when he changes the tire, instead of stamping our feet and muttering about how we could have done it ourselves. But when television tells us that men are insulting and bullying us when they talk to the mechanic for us, we get huffy and pissy instead of realizing they are just trying to do their job.
Men can't help themselves; they want to protect; they want to provide for their tribe, their family. I'm not saying only men should work while women do housework. I mean on a very deep, subconscious level this is where men are coming from.
So what now?
We have effectively removed our spouses as protector and provider even if only in an honorary modernized version of the position.
And yet at a deeply rooted level we still want protection.
So here’s what now.
We have put government at the head of our table.
We have put government in the role of daddy.
So while there may physically be a husband and father in the picture, in the dynamics of things, they have been replaced.I feel so much safer knowing this giant head is here
Government protects the children with their rules and laws.
Government provides food with their little programs.
Government provides health care and education.
So if you’re wondering where all the libertarian women are, we’re the ones not laughing at our husbands.